I find this to be such an interesting space – the time between Christmas and New Year’s Day. Most of us struggle with trying to relax with all of the self-imposed expectations of the season, not to mention the family drama that so often accompanies the holiday season. The gifts have been opened, the house is probably a bit out of sorts and yet we know there is more ‘celebration’ to come.
I am one of those fools who love’s New Year’s Eve. I know, I know, it’s amateur night, way too much hype…but I can’t help myself. I think it is such a wonderful time to reflect on the year that has passed – the good and the bad, and to set new intentions for the sparkly new year full of potential. It feels like a great opportunity to hit ‘reset’ and try again.
Whether you are a resolution-kind-of-person or not, I encourage you to set some time aside to reflect on 2012 and create intentions for the new year. We tend to think of things such as our careers, our weight, or our accomplishments. But what about our relationships? And what about doing this exercise as a couple? We’ve all heard that sharing our goals with others creates accountability, but imagine having understand and (gasp!) actual agreement with your partner about what you each want your relationship to feel like in the new year? I invite all of us to reflect and intend – try answering these questions (adapted from the work of Dr. Tammy Nelson www.drtammynelson.com) for yourself and then sharing them with your partner:
- One thing I have appreciated about our relationship this year is ____________.
- One thing I dream about for our relationship in the new year is _____________.
- One way that I may prevent this from happening would be ________________.
- What I am willing to do to have this dream become reality is _______________.
- One way you could help me would be _________________.
Wishing you much love, meaningful connections and much needed peace for all of us in the new year!